5 Things Extraordinary People Say Every Day

5 Things Extraordinary People Say Every Day

 

Want to make a huge difference in someone’s life? Here are things you should say every day to your employees, colleagues, family members, friends, and everyone you care about:

“Here’s what I’m thinking.”

You’re in charge, but that doesn’t mean you’re smarter, savvier, or more insightful than everyone else. Back up your statements and decisions. Give reasons. Justify with logic, not with position or authority.

Though taking the time to explain your decisions opens those decisions up to discussion or criticism, it also opens up your decisions to improvement.

Authority can make you “right,” but collaboration makes everyone right–and makes everyone pull together.

“I was wrong.”

I once came up with what I thought was an awesome plan to improve overall productivity by moving a crew to a different shift on an open production line. The inconvenience to the crew was considerable, but the payoff seemed worth it. On paper, it was perfect.

In practice, it wasn’t.

So, a few weeks later, I met with the crew and said, “I know you didn’t think this would work, and you were right. I was wrong. Let’s move you back to your original shift.”

I felt terrible. I felt stupid. I was sure I’d lost any respect they had for me.

It turns out I was wrong about that, too. Later one employee said, “I didn’t really know you, but the fact you were willing to admit you were wrong told me everything I needed to know.”

When you’re wrong, say you’re wrong. You won’t lose respect–you’ll gain it.

“That was awesome.”

No one gets enough praise. No one. Pick someone–pick anyone–who does or did something well and say, “Wow, that was great how you…”

And feel free to go back in time. Saying “Earlier, I was thinking about how you handled that employee issue last month…” can make just as positive an impact today as it would have then. (It could even make a bigger impact, because it shows you still remember what happened last month, and you still think about it.)

Praise is a gift that costs the giver nothing but is priceless to the recipient. Start praising. The people around you will love you for it–and you’ll like yourself a little better, too.

“You’re welcome.”

Think about a time you gave a gift and the recipient seemed uncomfortable or awkward. Their reaction took away a little of the fun for you, right?

The same thing can happen when you are thanked or complimented or praised. Don’t spoil the moment or the fun for the other person. The spotlight may make you feel uneasy or insecure, but all you have to do is make eye contact and say, “Thank you.” Or make eye contact and say, “You’re welcome. I was glad to do it.”

Don’t let thanks, congratulations, or praise be all about you. Make it about the other person, too.

“Can you help me?”

When you need help, regardless of the type of help you need or the person you need it from, just say, sincerely and humbly, “Can you help me?”

I promise you’ll get help. And in the process you’ll show vulnerability, respect, and a willingness to listen–which, by the way, are all qualities of a great leader.

And are all qualities of a great friend.

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24 comments
robertdavidstrong
robertdavidstrong

This is so true, there are so many different ways that you can inspire people, make them feel batter about themselves, and actually work harder. It really comes down to you and if you are willing to invest those extra 10 seconds providing that positive feedback and few words that can have a positive impact on peoples lives.

Thanks so much for sharing!

robertdavidstrong
robertdavidstrong

This is so true, there are so many different ways that you can inspire people, make them feel batter about themselves, and actually work harder. It really comes down to you and if you are willing to invest those extra 10 seconds providing that positive feedback and few words that can have a positive impact on peoples lives. Thanks so much for sharing! http://www.robertdstrong.com

TannerHawryluk
TannerHawryluk

Great article!...most people don't understand the power they have when they choose to open their mouth. Even by implementing those simple phrases that you listed above, it can dramatically impact someones day :)


TannerHawryluk
TannerHawryluk

Great article!...most people don't understand the power they have when they choose to open their mouth. Even by implementing those simple phrases that you listed above, it can dramatically impact someones day :)

LeannePeard
LeannePeard

Hey, I love this thank you so much I will be definitely using "Here is what I am thinking" so powerful...

LeannePeard
LeannePeard

Hey, I love this thank you so much I will be definitely using "Here is what I am thinking" so powerful...

MeltingWaves
MeltingWaves

Great post, especially love the last part about asking for help. If you don't ask for what you want, you'll never get it! These are great little reminders for everybody.

MeltingWaves
MeltingWaves

Great post, especially love the last part about asking for help. If you don't ask for what you want, you'll never get it! These are great little reminders for everybody.

Amanda Reimer
Amanda Reimer

This is such a great post! It truly is the little things that we can say that go a long way. My personal favorites are giving praise and being gracious by simply saying thank you. Thanks for sharing!

Amanda Reimer
Amanda Reimer

This is such a great post! It truly is the little things that we can say that go a long way. My personal favorites are giving praise and being gracious by simply saying thank you. Thanks for sharing!

Justicewordlaw
Justicewordlaw moderator

@robertdavidstrong Thanks for stopping by Robert and offering your thoughts. You're so right though with adding those small seconds of positive feedback to help others. It does go a very long way.

Justicewordlaw
Justicewordlaw

robertdavidstrong Thanks for stopping by Robert and offering your thoughts. You're so right though with adding those small seconds of positive feedback to help others. It does go a very long way.

Justicewordlaw
Justicewordlaw moderator

@TannerHawryluk Thanks a lot Tanner. Yeah it sounds very simple and powerful to do. If you constantly do that the things that will happen in your life will become very powerful.

Justicewordlaw
Justicewordlaw

TannerHawryluk Thanks a lot Tanner. Yeah it sounds very simple and powerful to do. If you constantly do that the things that will happen in your life will become very powerful.

Justicewordlaw
Justicewordlaw moderator

@MeltingWaves That's so true man. I know that was one of my biggest problems was not asking for help when I needed it but now I ask for help with about anything that comes my way.

Justicewordlaw
Justicewordlaw

MeltingWaves That's so true man. I know that was one of my biggest problems was not asking for help when I needed it but now I ask for help with about anything that comes my way.

Justicewordlaw
Justicewordlaw

Amanda Reimer Thanks for stopping by Amanda. I appreciate the comment. The little things do matter.